According to Wikipedia, Cliff Arnel created a calculation including the weather, time to break new year’s resolution, arrival of credit card bills with holiday expenses, and more to determine that the most depressing day of the year is the Monday of the last full week in January. Whether you find this calculation valid or not (and later Arnel admitted that it is not valid), there is still value in realizing that while outside factors can influence your feelings and moods, you CAN CHOOSE how you feel! (unless there is a medical condition involved.) Ready to move from blue to groove? Try some of these:
Allow yourself to feel sad.
Change your self-talk.
Check your diet for Omega-3’s and sugars
Get some exercise - move that body.
“Inhale blessings. Exhale gratitude.(C)”
Do something to help someone else.
Keep a gratitude journal.
Get some sun.
Feeling “blue” versus being depressed.
If you try these strategies and still feel overwhelming waves of sadness and low energy, you may be experiencing clinical depression and we encourage you to see your health care provider.
Not sure if what you are feeling is depression or the ‘blues’, note some of these symptoms of depressions:
- Drawn-out periods of sadness or not feeling “up to it,” individuals who are always feeling not in the mood, who’d rather mope around the house and feel sorry for one’s self is the finest example for this symptom of depression.
- Feels hopeless, pessimist: speaking of feeling sorry for one’s self, a different common symptom of depression is when an individual actually feels like he/she has nothing to look forward to in his or her lifespan. As for being the pessimist, those who exhibit this symptom of depression are commonly really negative about matters; again, the feeling of hopelessness comes in to mind.
- Guilt-driven, loss of self-worth and helplessness: additional symptoms of depression that may be easily seen on individuals who prefer to mope around all day long are these. Whenever an individual feels so guilty over something, that really makes one a very sad individual who feels like he or she doesn’t deserve to be happy. Thus, the loss of self-worth, if that individual feels like he or she isn’t worthy of being happy or enjoying one’s self then that’s clear revealing symptom of depression.
- Fatigue, always tired: individuals suffering from depression are actually lacking of physical vitality at all times. A depressed individual might well be on their way to not simply a mental illness but depression may actually be terrible for one’s physical health too.
- Having trouble centering: an individual who’s suffering from depression has this revealing symptom of depression. Wherein one’s lack of interest with respect to the outside world or for virtually anything for that matter may lead to that individual’s inability to lose track of things and really not be able to remember things that occurred or what others said. Lack of interest really makes depressed individuals very inattentive.
Hear this…depression isn’t something to be embarrassed or ashamed about. If your bladder was spewing out a toxic infection, you would think nothing of getting it checked out. Yet, often we resist seeking help when it is our mind spewing out toxic stuff. Seek support! You deserve to feel joy and bliss.
Today, on Blue Monday, and every day, choose bliss!
Melanie and LynetteRead More
When we find ourselves in a state of intense stress or negative emotion, laughing or smiling may seem impossible. Try these two strategies to discover how they can help you find the laughs and smiles to feel, think, and function better.
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Hi, I’m Melanie Hoffner, the Mind Magician team member of Saving Superwoman.
When I am in a stressful situation, I KNOW intellectually that laughter will support me in breaking the stress cycle, and sometimes find it difficult to muster one on cue. When that happens, I have several memories that almost always lead me to laughter.
Stress Strategy 1:
I recall a situation on a sunny spring morning while making breakfast. I asked my, then toddler, son to open the front door and let some cool air in. He was used to going to the door to call in our cat with a, “Here kitty, kitty.” I was surprised to hear him calling, “Here cold air. Here cold air.” I was chuckling and stopped when he came into the kitchen with a very concerned face and tone and said, “Mommy, cold air is not here.” I laugh aloud every time I recall this.
Right now, recall a situation from your life, a scene from a movie, or a funny story that causes you to laugh. After you enjoy the laugh, consciously store this connection in your memory by saying, “When I need to laugh, I think about ________. Fill in the blank with a key word or words to trigger the memory, e.g. “Here cold air.”
Stress Strategy 2:
Smiling creates a positive emotional shift when the facial nerves used to smile signal to the brain. The brain gets a “smiling” action message and then it changes the chemical mix so you begin to feel happy to match. Smiling truly allows you to fake it until you feel it.
Smiling when we are very upset or angry can be challenging and Lynette Patterson shared this strategy with me. Take a pencil and place it between your back teeth. This forces your mouth into a smile which activates the chemical shift in your brain so you feel better. You might even laugh if you look at yourself in a mirror while clamping on that pencil with your teeth. Just don’t bare down too hard… you don’t want splinters in your tongue!!
You can most often shift your negative or stressful emotions with laughter and smiles, which help you think more effectively and feel better emotionally and physically. If you have a strategy to add laughter and smiles to your day, please share it. Here’s to more smiles, laughter and ultimately, success.Read More
Mary pulled on the shirt she wanted to wear, and then glanced at the mirror. She sighed, pulled the shirt back over her head, and tossed it on the bed. Ten frustrating minutes later she stomped out of her bedroom wearing a baggy black sweater. She didn’t know whether to be glad she’d kept the old sweater or disgusted with herself for hiding behind it again. She not only had failed to stay on her diet, but had probably put on five pounds this week. Why couldn’t she get the weight off and keep it off?
Jamie was nervous about the meeting with her supervisor. It was the perfect opportunity to pitch the new ideas she had on the ad campaign – but she wasn’t ready. Where did all the time go? She never seemed to be able to get things done and get ahead.
Goals, resolutions, plans, dreams… Many of us start the New Year with fresh ambition, only to have tried and failed before the end of January. There are several probable reasons for your sense of failure and frustration. This article will begin help you to identify where you might be going wrong with your goal setting – and how you can change your life with a few proven strategies.
Before you start out, you need to know two things: where you are now and where you want to go. When you first turn on your car’s GPS, it takes a few minutes to locate your position. Like a GPS, you need to take a little time to honestly assess your life. Many coaches use a tool called the Wheel of Life for this purpose. Download a copy of this tool at my primary site… Van Allen Coaching.
To complete this exercise, identify how satisfied you are with each area of your life. Then ask yourself which area is calling out to you for change. Only you can identify which area is the key to creating change in your life. Your lowest scores might be in the areas of relationships or finances, but you might identify that physical fitness is the key to triggering change in these areas. Get out of your head and into your heart for this exercise.
Once you have identified the areas of your life calling out for change, you need to identify that change in a way that is Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant and Time-specific. Your goals need to be SMART. Shooting at a target in the fog will yield poor results. But having a specific, well-defined target increases your chances of success. Wording your goal in a way that is measurable also increases your success, and gives you opportunities to create milestones along the way to check and celebrate your progress. Your plan needs to be achievable and relevant. Something you believe has at least a 50% chance and is meaningful you. Your emotional attachment to the goal is very important. And finally, be clear on when you are starting your journey and when the journey will end.
Only you can change your life. Only you can identify what part of you is calling out for change. You don’t want or need to travel alone. Our next article in this series will give you suggestions for choosing partners who will support you along the way. For now, download the exercise and get ready for the journey of your life!!
Dr. Lisa Van Allen is a certified professional life and business coach with over twenty years experience supporting people in finding and fulfilling life’s purpose. You can hear Dr. Lisa and her partners Melanie Hoffner and Lynette Patterson every Saturday 10 AM Eastern on Blog Talk Radio – Saving SuperwomanRead More
There are many avenues to explore when it comes to discovering your life purpose. Unfortunately, though, nobody else can find it for you. Since your life purpose is unique from anyone else’s, it’s a mission that you – and only you – can complete.
In your quest for passion, concentrate on enjoying the journey itself. Sometimes when you stop stressing about your life’s purpose, it falls into your lap!
Here are some ways you can discover your life purpose:
1. Write about how you feel. Try journaling with a pen and paper, or grab your laptop and just start writing. Write about how you truly feel and what you want out of life. Remember that no one is going to read this other than you, so don’t be afraid to express your thoughts.
- Go back and reread your entries every so often. Many times this process can bring you new realizations that you didn’t think of when you were writing it in the first place.
2. Pursue your passions. If you’re passionate about a certain subject, maybe you can make a career or hobby out of it so that you can engage in activities that are personally meaningful to you. This way, each day of your life will feel like it matters and you will have a life purpose.
3. Consider your talents. Think about the areas in which you naturally excel and see if you can turn these skills into something meaningful for you.
- Many people are drawn to a life purpose that makes them feel like they’re making a true difference in the lives of other people. You may find it fulfilling to be using something you’re good at to help others that are in need.
4. Converse with inspiring people. Strike up a conversation with someone who inspires you. While you might not be interested in the same things, you can talk about how they discovered their life purpose. Their triumphs and struggles will make good lessons for you in your journey to your purpose.
5. What brings you joy? Reflect on the moments in your life when you’re most happy. What are you doing at these times? You can start the quest for your life purpose by using what already makes you happy.
- Maybe you’re most happy when you’re just sitting at home with your family. That’s a wonderful gift!
- Remember that you’re not necessarily searching for something exotic! After all, your life purpose may already be under your nose.
6. Embrace change. Sometimes the thing that holds you back from self-discovery is a fear of change. There’s comfort and safety in not taking risks, but you also may never discover your life’s true purpose. Learn to embrace change because life is constantly changing around you.
7. Uphold your values. Everyone has a set of values that they tend to adhere to in life. You can use your values as a starting point to discovering you life purpose. Make a list of your values with your most important ones at the top. Think about what you can do to honor those values in life every day and you may find your purpose.
Finding your purpose in life may not be as hard as you think. Use these strategies on your journey and one day soon you’ll realize that you’ve found the one feature of your life that makes everything worthwhile.Read More
Your attitude about life is one of the most important factors for success. A bad attitude gets you nowhere, while a good one can provide you with enough motivation to succeed beyond your dreams.
You may think that you already have a success-mindset, and perhaps you do. However, you can always benefit from strengthening that attitude and therefore increasing your chances for the success you deserve.
Follow these strategies for improving your attitude for success: